Some of us some of us sometimes wonder, Why can’t we act the way we do\or why we just grew up with some certain characters. Some even wonder why they can’t just let go of those character, habits, hobbies etc.
If you ask some or most of them they will tell you they grew up with it or learnt it from their parents or guardians. Some will even say they see their parents do it so, they adopted it and put it to use. Does this mean that what & who we become in life is partly dependent on what we learn from our parents? Some of these experiences may be good or bad but our choice to pick them up depends on us.
Normally, a new born child comes with the head blank but starts gaining memories as he/she grows up. In order to get knowledge, the first set of people he/she learns from, is the parent; what they do, language, how they speak, the kind of words they use, the kind of attitude they show around other people. Unconsciously, parents do a lot of things around their children, not knowing that the children are learning from them. Children of this new age are born with the ability to learn faster so, they pick up habits in a manner of days once they notice it. They live life the way they see it (i.e the way they see their parents live it); making the parents indirectly the mentors/disciplers.
For example; a male child while growing up always see his parents fighting, with his dad always beating his mum, to him getting married in the future means he also has to be beating his wife which is not good (not even biblical). A female child grew up with her single mum and always sees her going out with different men. Since the mother is her first & primary source of knowledge about life, she starts to believe that the mother’s lifestyle is good way to live.
Take note; not all about the children’s lives can be traced back or linked to their parents’ lifestyles which they picked up, some parents don’t give their children the attentions they desire, so maybe the friends they make or people older than them which they meet in their early years will be the ones that they learn from (disciplers) and they look unto them as their teachers, mentors, guides and even some as adopted parents. That is part of the reason why we must always give our children the attention they need and live a lifestyle worthy of been emulated before we can start to teach them to live a correct lifestyle of their own. While growing up, they always have a lot of questions to ask but to get answers to some of these questions, they study us and how we live and you must know, your lifestyle provides most of the answers to your child’s questions about life while growing up because you are his/her first mentor/disciple.
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